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Wedding date set? Check
Best Woman? Check
Man of honour? Check
Stop. Rewind. What??
No, you didn’t misread and I didn’t mistype. You can have a best woman and a man-of-honour and they can stand on whatever side of the wedding you want them to! The job description still says "speech!" though; so check out (or if you're the bride/groom, maybe forward this on...) the resources at the end of this article for speech structure and tips.
Weddings are about celebrating a new milestone, marking a new adventure in your life, and you do it with the closest people to you. Tradition says the groom has an army of groomsmen while the bride, an army of bridesmaids. So, if you’re the groom, where does your female best friend fit in? If you’re the bride, where does your male best friend fit in?
The answer is simple: BREAK TRADITION!
What Do I Call Them?
Female "Best Man": Many opt for "best woman", we've heard "best gal" used instead on the reasoning that his wife is the best woman. Other options include(but, of course not limited to...& if you do have your own idea, please do share with us in the comments below!):
- Best woman
- Best gal
- Honour Attendant
- Woman of Honour
For female groomsmen, "groomswoman" will do!
Male "Maid-of-Honour": "Man-of-honour" is the obvious choice here, "honour attendant" is another.
A male bridesmaid can be referred to as "bridesman" or "bride's attendant."
What Do They Wear?
Best Woman: your best gal can wear a tuxedo matching your groomsmen, or a dress in similar colours. She can match up with the bridesmaids, but then it's not so obvious whose side she's representing!
Man-of-Honour: your best guy can rock what the groomsmen are wearing; use accent pieces like the tie or pocket square to coordinate with the dress colour of the bridesmaids.
What About the Photographer?
What about it, right? It's worth mentioning the dynamics to the photographer so your best guy or gal is sure to be captured in the right group in the photos!
What about the party?
Another simple answer: Continue breaking tradition! Don't segregate bride-and-groom specific events (like a bridal shower or bachelor party) by gender. Celebrate with everyone; you can even consider a joint bachelor/bachelorette party! Remember, it's about having fun and celebrating a milestone, don't over complicate!
Other than a female standing on the groom’s side or a male standing on the bride’s side, not much else about the wedding changes. You may find a woman in a tux, or a man in a dress, and that’s simply by choice. The key thing is whatever the attire, the colours match the rest of the wedding party and contrast the bride and groom leaving them to shine like the stars they are.
Oh, yes, and the speech? That still applies, so gear up and get those stories, jokes, and sentimental toasts ready!
Need some help writing that speech(or know someone who might...)?
Check out these great resources:
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